Marriage Monday: “My Husband Pays Me For Sex” Edition

I knew that would get your attention…

Is it unconventional for a man to pay for sex? What about a husband paying to have sex with his wife? What is your definition of ‘paying’?

Depending on how you answered that question you might already know where I am going with this. Love is transactional. In any relationship, there is a payment or an exchange for something. Whether it be monetary, physical, emotional, spiritual, etc. There is a give and take.

For Papa and I, how we show each other love is our payment to one another. 

When Papa completes a project for me, takes care of a home or car repair, prepares dinner, or round the kids up for bed…he’s paying me in a way that’s worth way more to me than money. In return, I repay him with intimacy, because affection and touch is his dominant love language. 

 It’s an exchange and sometimes a barter system lol but it’s all done under loving and transparent conditions. 

 However you choose to give and take in your relationship, make sure your spouse is receiving the type of payout that’s important to them. 

 At the end of the day, regardless of how you view it, we all pay for sex one way or another…